If you’ve never experienced talk therapy you may wonder how mere talk can change things for you. Here’s a shorthand way of thinking about this: talking with someone alters your neural networks, which is the “wiring” that “programs” the way you move through the world. A good therapist knows how to talk with you to help you “rewire” in the ways you want.
That takes place at different rhythms though. For some, big changes are felt early on. For others, there is a more gradual and subtle shift. For still others, there may be periodic waves of stasis and growth. Some, though, get stuck in a place where they seem not to experience any internal movement at all, and we would be discussing this challenge along the way. While there are no guarantees, this typically gives way to a positive breakthrough, which is a reason not to give up on therapy prematurely.
The links below offer a few more words about how I work with individuals, which is the mainstay of my practice, and couples, whom I occasionally see.